Category Archives: Sexuality

Oh, no they didn’t!

Devon is a good friend of mine. He’s an exotic dancer in and around the Carolinas and I’ve known him for a while. He’s got a hell of a lot more balls than I do (no pun intended); I don’t think I could ever take my clothes off in public. He does it like it’s no big deal.

Yeah… he’s the guy with the ad over on the right, in case you hadn’t noticed by now.

But I respect Devon, despite the fact that I don’t think I’ve ever truly felt comfortable in the places he works.

He’s also doing some great blogging over at devonhunter.info (NSFW).

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Squandering nature’s knowledge

What happens when you take one of the most powerful, most influential world-wide “governments” with unfettered access to all the accumulated knowledge of Western Civilization and allow them to speak on the environment, nature’s “law,” sexual orientation and gender?

They ignore it, trash it, squander it — and sound like they’ve never taken a serious look at human biology in their entire 2,000 year existence.

Recently, Pope Benedict XVI said, “[The church] must defend not only the earth, water and air as gifts of creation that belong to all. It must also defend the human person against its own destruction. What’s needed is something like a ‘human ecology,’ understood in the right sense. It’s not simply an outdated metaphysics if the church speaks of the nature of the human person as man and woman, and asks that this order of creation be respected.”

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Fighting AIDS in the South

I don’t know if everyone saw it, but there was a great profile of North Carolina HIV/AIDS pioneer Evelyn Foust in Sunday’s Raleigh News & Observer:

Evelyn Foust would have been happy to be out of her career by now.

As North Carolina’s chief HIV and AIDS fighter, Foust has seen firsthand how the virus has morphed from seemingly isolated cases among gay men to a worldwide epidemic that infects 33 million people. In North Carolina, an estimated 31,000 people have HIV or AIDS.

Evelyn Foust

Evelyn Foust

On Monday, World AIDS Day focuses a passing spotlight on the disease. For Foust, who heads the state’s Communicable Disease Branch, the disease is a daily pursuit.

For Foust, the disease became concrete one day in 1985, when a young man walked into the public health clinic in Charlotte where she worked. Sitting knee-to-knee with him, she broke the news that he faced a fatal infection.

“I remember his face to this day,” she says. “Beautiful big brown eyes. He said, ‘My test result is positive, isn’t it?’ And I said it was positive. And he looked at me, and I looked at him, and I didn’t have anything I could offer. The only thing I knew to do was reach over and squeeze his hand. And I said I was sorry.”

Too many similar conversations followed.

Foust and other HIV/AIDS workers and organization heads are now working together in the Southern AIDS Coalition. As HIV/AIDS has slowly become a life-long disease, instead of an almost immediate, fatal one, cases in the South continue to rack up. The disease still disproportionally infects Southerners, especially in communities of color and among men who have sex with men.

HIV/AIDS disproportionally affects Southerners, especially men who have sex with men and in communities of color.

HIV/AIDS disproportionally affects Southerners, especially men who have sex with men and in communities of color.

Today is World AIDS Day — a day to remember, but also a day to act. I know the economy is bad, but if you have the extra funds, donate to a local AIDS service organization. Or, commit yourself to volunteering or raising awareness of the issue in your own unique way. Remind your friends of the importance of protecting their health by making wise, safe-sex decisions. If you haven’t been tested, or can’t name the place and time when you last were, commit yourself to going for another test as soon as you can.

“Diagnosing and fixing was an old model,” Foust says in the News & Observer piece, regarding HIV/AIDS responses. “It worked for other sexually transmitted diseases, but this was a disease where there was no cure, so you had to work on prevention and testing. People had to protect themselves.”

Taking care of your own health is paramount. Being a part of a community and helping your friends and neighbors do the same thing is just as paramount.

Performing live: ‘acts’ of homosexuality

Students at Murray State University, the “public ivy university” of Kentucky, held a truly unique event recently.

In the campus “free speech zones” (something that’s likely totally unconstitutional, by the way), students involved with the campus’ LGBT organization hung out, read stories and chilled with friends during an event dubbed “Live Homosexual Acts.”

On Friday, members of the Murray State Alliance performed live homosexual acts on campus in the Free Speech Zone. Many students were shocked, but not necessarily as the name the event implies.

Students performed acts such as reading, studying and hanging out to raise awareness about the lifestyle of gay members of the Murray State campus.

Chris Morehead, junior from Paducah, Ky., checked out Friday’s event after hearing about it through a Facebook message. He said the event was sort of ironic because the name of the event is shocking, but the activities are normal.

Morehead, who is gay, said while hanging out at the event he was pleased to see several of his straight friends were comfortable enough to stop and speak to him. He said he also had friends who walked by and waved but did not stop.

More from the Murray State News (h/t PageOneQ)

Ignorance, contradiction, hyper-sensationalism and, yet again, Armageddon

Don Walton, the president and founder of an ultra right-wing Spring Hill, Fla. “ministry,” recently penned a guest commentary to Hernando Today, a publication of The Tampa Tribune.

In it, Walton displays so many instances of outright ignorance, contradiction and hyper-sensationalism that I’m more than sure the average reader will do nothing but turn away in disgust.

And, I’m not surprised that the sensationalist, militant and violent use of allusions to Armageddon cropped up in my quick research of Walton’s group.

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Gay marriage fight = Armageddon

Radical Right leader Chuck Colson of Prison Fellowship Ministries has said the fight over California marriage equality and Proposition 8 is Armageddon:

“If sexual freedom is the ultimate liberty, then you have to rewrite the Bill of Rights,” Chuck Colson, founder of the Prison Fellowship Ministries, says on a Yes on Proposition 8 video produced by the American Family Association for distribution to pastors and Christian activists. “This vote on whether we stop the gay marriage juggernaut in California is the Armageddon. We lose this — we’re going to lose in a lot of other ways, including freedom of religion.”

Colson, who will speak at the National Conference on Christian Apologetics with Dr. James Dobson in Charlotte on Nov. 7-8, should not be ignored. His language, a throw-back to violence and rhetorical militancy, should not be taken lightly.

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It’s only gay if…

I was reading one of the hundreds of blogs and websites I check out each week and ran across this blog by a gay parent working and living in Chapel Hill, N.C.

Discussing how his high school-aged son told him about a few of his acquaintances attending the NC Pride Parade and Festival in Durham, the son told his father that one of his friends was gay. While the following discussions sounds silly — really, nothing more than high school hilarity — it does kind of bring to the surface some real issues surrounding sexuality and gender, and how straight men identify themselves in the face of their own sexual actions.

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Goodbye historical context, hello ignorance and lies

Famed singer and conservative talking head Pat Boone has written a curious commentary at the rabidly anti-gay “news” website WND.com. In the “exclusive commentary,” entitled, “Are you ready for a gay America?”, Boone laments the loss of what he sees as his traditional America and the forthcoming “breakdown of society,” “last period of history,” “a decaying, irreligious world” and “social anarchy.”

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NC Pastor: Stop condeming, start healing

The Winston-Salem Journal, my lovely hometown newspaper, published a great column by John Railey. Interviewing an African-American minister, Railey’s column delves into just some of the multitude of issues that make stopping HIV/AIDS difficult in black communities and in the black church:

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Charlotte pastor: ‘I don’t care about your pain’

The Charlotte Observer today published a front-pager on the new book edited by Mitchell Gold, featuring 40 stories of gay and lesbian people’s ordeals growing up gay in America and their experiences in the church.

“CRISIS: 40 Stories Revealing the Personal, Social, and Religious Pain and Trauma of Growing Up Gay in America,” to which I contributed a chapter (excerpted at The Charlotte Observer’s website, mind you) “includes stories from actor Richard Chamberlain and U.S. Rep. Barney Frank as well as area contributors – Charlotte’s Matt Comer, editor of Q-Notes; Hickory’s Brent Childers, a straight evangelical Christian who has renounced his anti-gay views; and Myers Park Baptist Church Minister Stephen Shoemaker, whose church was booted from the Baptist State Convention for welcoming homosexuals.”

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